Wrong Way to Send a LinkedIn Invitation?

by Marian Sparks

in Flawless Follow Up

You’ve decided to use the business networking site, LinkedIn.com as a tool to follow up with potential clients, build relationships and cull business opportunities. Yet, you don’t understand why more people don’t click “accept” when they initially receive your LinkedIn invitation.

And it’s all because you sent this:

“So what’s wrong with this invitation,” you ask? “It’s the one pre-populated by LinkedIn, so it ought to be good enough”, you figure.

Well, the truth is that it’s not good enough for following up and building business relationships. Sending a generic invitation like the one above, causes your invitations to be deleted, ignored, or worse, completely rejected.

It’s a sure-fire way to turn off those who receive your well-intended invitation, reduce the number of “accepted” invites, and stunt your relationship-building activities.

4 Reasons Why Your LinkedIn Invitations Are NOT “Accepted” (and What to Do Differently):

1. They don’t know you.

Literally. Your interaction at a recent business conference or networking event was one of many they had. When they receive your LinkedIn invitation ‘as is,’ the first question they ask themselves is “How do I know this person?” Don’t assume that you made a favorable impression and ‘expect’ them to remember you by name. So in your opening sentence, refresh their memory about who you are and the memorable encounter you both shared.

2. They haven’t heard from you in ages.

Remember the good ol’ days from college, B-school or Company X? Well, you may. But your recipients may not. If it’s been ages since you spoke or exchanged an email (let alone a holiday card), reconnect first. In your opening sentence, admit to the lapse in contact. Then share a short personal update, followed by an invitation to keep in touch. For example, “Hi Lynn it’s been ages since we last exchanged emails. How have you been? Saw you on LinkedIn and thought I’d try reconnecting….” You’ll win more “accepts” from this approach versus the generic invite.

3. You haven’t personalized the note.

The system pre-populates the recipient’s first name but that alone doesn’t make the note personal. The sterile tone of your invitation provides no incentive to know, like or trust you. How you invite people to your network says a lot about how you value the relationship, and how likely they’ll assist you when you need to tap into their relationships with others. It’s a fact. We choose to help those we trust and those we like because we know them. Express a sincere interest in the recipient’s well-being or current business challenge.

4. You haven’t given them a compelling reason why they should “link” to you.

Your generic invitation feels more like an ulterior motive to access the golden eggs (their precious contacts) without taking care of the goose (cultivating a relationship with them). Because they do not know you to like or trust you, any request for assistance down the road, wouldn’t yield the results you’d expect. There’s no incentive to happily forward leads and broker introductions on your behalf. And the manner in which you invite them doesn’t engender trust or better treatment once they join your network. Instead, create value by explicitly offering “access” to your network. Suggest they join your network to find someone who can help them solve a specific problem and as the ‘goose’ or connection, you’ll broker an introduction.

Bottom line?

If you want to build a highly responsive network of contacts using LinkedIn.com, then stop sending out LinkedIn invitations the wrong way. Instead, take 90 seconds to craft a short and personal invitation that reconnects and incentivizes your recipients to join your network. An “inviting” invitation leads to more clicks of the “accept” button and continues to move the relationship forward.

Start implementing these suggestions now and see how quickly people respond favorably to your invitation.

 

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  • Brittni Abiolu
    Hello,

    I don't think it's smart to simply ignore a connection. Although you don't know the person, it still may be beneficial to connect with them. If you get a generic invite, why not respond with your own message? It could be a link to your next million dollar deal. I know that some people are slow to learn how to use Linked In and I am one of them. For a long time I did not know that Linked In suggests that you only add people you know, but isn't this defeating the purpose of linked in? We are business people trying to connect with each other to build upon existing relationships and establish new relationships. How is it possible to establish new relationships if you can't add new people. I honestly don't think I have ever used a generic invite, because when I first started using the site, it was too help me get a job with a particular company. I would create a specific message for the person at the company that I wanted to add. Mostly everyone accepted my requests because I don't use the generic message. I have only had two people deny my request thus far that don't know me and I guess that just didn't want to build a new relationship. Just my opinion.
  • @Brittni -
    What I hear you saying is -->send out personal invitations to connect with people. And when someone sends you a generic invite, it's your opportunity to role model a personal response. Thanks so much for sharing your perspective and experiences! They are valued and welcome here!
  • Kevin Davis
    Thanks for this article, there is nothing I hate worse than some generic bland invitation. I usually ignore those, especially if they don't tell me why we should connect.
  • @Kevin,

    Sounds like we're kindred spirits! LOL! I truly appreciate you chiming in. To better connections!
  • I tend to leave the default invitation message when I know the person, but I do change it when I'm trying to connect with someone who doesn't know me from Adam or may not remember me.

    I tend to think no one remembers me and I remember everyone. Lol. So just in case, I'll give you a more descriptive message.

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  • @Deborah,
    That's certainly one way to do it---default for people you know. We're all ultra busy so it's easy to take for granted the connections we do have. The people who know me deserve the best of me, not just strangers I want to befriend. (And they're kind enough to remind me if I slack off - LOL!). Thanks for taking the time to share! I appreciate you.
  • Makes total sense. I will retweek it right now!
  • @Janine,

    Glad you found value in the post! I have yet to meet anyone who doesn't prefer the "personal" touch! Cheers!
  • @Paula Stanfield -
    I'm glad you found it helpful and sparked you to action!
  • Thanks Marian. This tip on Linkedin was extremely helpful. I successfully gained several new network associates within minutes. I am new to the on-line business world, and I would have never know how to build such a highly responsive network of contacts.
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